You would always buy me a scotch,
then squirm with embarrassment as I downed it in one.
You knew that my being an Aries female
meant I was never going to be your coveted "Barbie Doll" type.
But you took my heart anyway and owner-branded it
with your tyre tread, and mounted it on the wall
alongside your myriad of Grand Prix trophies.
But this one you crucified alive,
then averted your eyes while it bled to death.
In your highly innovative circles they never expected me to speak,
assuming the region between my ears a vacuum.
Then when their error slapped them in the face, you left me.
To this day, I still grapple with that paradox.
Did you ever really love me as you claimed?
Or was I no more than a photogenic media-magnet,
a mere sacrifice to the Gods of fame:
a dumb, diamond encrusted stepping-stone
to all you believe you are now?
well it sounds like he did not kill it completely if you were willing to speak you mind...ugh...def would never fit as a trophy....the whole look nice but dont speak thing would urk me....sounds like its not a bad thing you escaped that....
ReplyDeleteThis experience was a friend's. I so felt for her...it was one of those painful occasions when you clearly see what is coming, but dare not speak out until it is too late...for fear of shattering her dream.
ReplyDeleteI could never endure a relationship like that...it must destroy every ounce of self-respect.
I think I'd rather be alone...
Many thanks, Brian.
Sad when people treat others this way. To be honest though, it's good that it didn't work out with him, as you wouldn't want to end up with that kind of man forever. You're much too good for that!!
ReplyDeleteIt was very sad to watch, Keith.
DeleteShe gave the relationship her all, and seemed top be the only one who seemed not to see what was happening.
I wouldn't say he was a bad person, just too focussed on his own goals to see she needed a life too.
Hopefully her next relationship will be the "real thing!"
Many thanks :)
This is fantastic, a direct hit. I know the guys. I know women who refused, and some of those who continue to be with them..
ReplyDelete“Photogenic media-magnet” is great☺
Thank you, Anthony. I really appreciate that!
DeleteI know exactly what you mean...my friend would have still been with him if he hadn't ended the relationship...so he really did her a favour.
Not sure she appreciates it yet though:/
But I'm sure she will in time...:)
I knew it had to be someone else and not you.
ReplyDeleteA long time ago I liked someone who I knew was going to treat me 'like a trophy' I quickly ended the relationship.
Great write, Ygraine.
So glad you shared it
Hugs
xx
Good for you, Margie...probably saved yourself a lot of heartache.
DeleteTo observe someone going through that type of one-sided relationship is agony...it is going to take her a long time to heal.
Thank you so much for reading.
Hugs xxx
I do not know what is with Google lately but every time I try to comment somewhere I get OOPS SORRY LINK BROKE!!!
ReplyDeleteI will try this again...I think that guy was my first husband but thankfully not my last! My second hubby of 43 years and counting treats me as his equal and I love him for it.
Great writing, Ygraine.
Hugs
xoxoxo
Dear Jan...you have no idea how precious your comment is.
DeleteI will ask my friend to read it, because I know it will be of immense help to her to see there is life after someone like him.
Thank you so much for sharing your own experience.
It is wonderful to know you are so happy the second time around!
Big Hugs xxx
that's such a sad story your friend must have been devastated. i too I'm alone, I am no one's trophy, I am no one's girl, or cutie, I have met the worst men possible so I have to wonder, how awful were i in my previous life. That every men in my life slapped me down, because \i wouldn't be what they wanted me to be. I'd much rather me alone with my much loved cats and my little Sammi Spirit
ReplyDeleteThere is another way to look at this, Sweetie...the way I see it, you are the winner...the stronger one.
DeleteYou refused to be what they wanted you to be...so they had no power over you. Men like that run away when they can't have power over someone!
Perhaps you are alone for a reason...no one you have met so far has been good enough for you.
Your Soul Mate is still out there...waiting for you...
In the meantime...your beloved cats are your friends (and me, I hope?!) *smiles*
Big Hugs xxx
May I recommend this as a caption for a T-shirt? "The region between my ears is NOT a vacuum." :-) Copyright it before it goes.
ReplyDeleteGreetings from London.
Ha...a BRILLIANT idea, CiL!!
DeleteIf only I had thought of that at the time...*smiles*
Greetings from Rutland.
Very painful and sad!
ReplyDeleteBig Hugs my friend ;o)
Thank you so much, Stacy!
DeleteHope you are having a great weekend.
Big Hugs back! xxx
"Did you ever really love me as you claimed?", the answer is NO, of course, but here's another question, "Did she ever love him?". A woman working at home, taking care of her husband and children, cooking for them, is not a slave but a good wife and mother, the Queen of her family. What do women want from men now? If women don't lÃke men, why do they want to be lÃke them? Must a person bear everything for love? Love is giving, love is patient, love is not selfish, that's why Christ was crucified. Where's that invisible line between stupidity and goodness? Ah! We all think we are right and others are wrong... Only God is right and I only know that I know nothing in spite of having a little brain - not vacuum - between my ears :) Very well written and provoking, dear Ygraine. A hug.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, Dulcina, for these very wise words.
DeleteI do often look around me and wonder if the World has gone mad.
People seem so demanding of each other...you seem to be expected to be what everyone else wants, or else you are deemed to be worthless in their eyes.
I could never conform to that sort of life...would rather be myself and unwanted, than live a lie.
Love, for me, has to be unconditional (on both sides)...or not at all!
Oh you are SO, SO right...
Big Hugs xxx
Love the strong words you used in this piece describing this very dysfunctional relationship, A very sad story indeed to be so abused.
ReplyDeleteIt was absolutely heart-breaking, Rose.
ReplyDeleteWhat made it worse is the fact that I could do absolutely nothing to prevent that devastating conclusion...just watch and offer support wherever I could.
Many thanks xxx