Thursday 16 November 2017

GIRL POWER, circa 2017

Attention all males: please avert your eyes
from women in low-cut tops. And when using public transport
for goodness' sake make sure
you never inadvertently brush against a female,
or the consequences for you could well be dire.
Be careful, also, to avoid verbalizing your thoughts
when you find a woman attractive. Oh no,
never actually tell her she looks good in tight jeans,
or they'll label you a pervert, lock you up and throw away the key.
Remember, "abuse" is the latest battle-cry of pugilistic feminism!

If, however, you are still brave enough to ask her out,
then do proceed with extreme caution
and frame your request very carefully. It must be
free of even the slightest degree of innuendo, and
mentioning her weight, body shape, looks or hairstyle
is strictly off limits. And if buying her a drink,
make absolutely certain that she witnesses the glass being filled
or, sure as hell, you'll be accused of lacing it with rohypnol
by next morning. Oh yes, you must tread very carefully, guys.
Girl power, circa 2017, is fast becoming the deadliest of all plagues...

and now, it seems, the boys are joining in too...;)


  1. Rock on, sister. It's all a bunch of BS, if you ask me. I mean, don't grab, but you can pretty easily compliment without being vile. Girls do want to be noticed ... and gasp, even desired!

  2. Yep...pretty mixed-up age, I reckon!;)

    Many thanks.

  3. Great post dearest Ygraine!!!
    LEER at them but with respect :)
    I am so happy that I no longer need to worry about the dating scene.
    Now if a man comes up to me a bit to close and enters my space these's probably because he is losing his eyesight and won't wear contacts or glasses :D

    Great Big Hugs Always

  4. You and I both, dearest Jan! LOL!!
    I don't for one moment believe that of you are (and always will be) stunning):))
    Thank you so much for your kind words...they are prized so highly...always...

    Lots of Love & Big Hugs xoxoxo

  5. Enjoyed.. The present climate of course is the result of a history of men’s efforts to control and abuse women.. I see the present climate even with the extremes as a positive. Still have a long way to go..

    1. Yes, certainly is a complex subject...hence my feeble attempt to inject a little humour (I hope!) into it! ;)
      Many thanks.

    2. It was the humor I enjoyed most.

  6. Yes, to many the world is a mixed up place, and seems to be getting madder and more mixed up as each day opens! Where will it all end I ask myself ...

    I enjoyed your words

    All the best Jan

    1. My thoughts exactly, Jan.
      I am very concerned for my granddaughter...I do so hope things have improved by the time she is dating...:/

      Many thanks.:))

  7. Thought-provoking post. I'm glad you wrote this, Ygraine. I haven't learned anything about dating since 1966. Back then I would make friends with a girl and finally ask her out. In my upbringing, I was taught a fundamental rule of politeness is my guest, friend, date, should be treated as my social superior --opening doors, conducting introductions to other friends, etc. --mainly showing respect. In 1970, I married my best friend and she's in the other room sending photos to grandchildren. So, having learned little about permanent,loving bonds since 1966, I'm puzzled by the abusive behavior that has lately overwhelmed internet news. I thought we were all brought up to the same manners. Oh, certainly, we men are full of awful ideas, and it may take many generations to get rid of them. Maybe this frightening new news-favorite subject might help --I hope it does-- but I also hope it doesn't spawn a dearth of unprovable charges and indefensible amnesia.

    1. I wish most of the men I met when I was younger were more like you!
      I suffered abuse in the workplace, and was never believed when I reported it...and then the retaliation followed, in the form of extreme bullying.
      It is horrible, but the last thing I'd want to do now is stir it all up again, and have to relive it mentally.
      I do honestly believe, though, that there are some people who are making false accusations simply to either gain their five minutes of fame, or else have some kind of sick revenge for the breakup of a relationship. And that is so wrong.
      Problem is, in doing that, they are making it less likely that genuine victims will be taken seriously.
      I'm just apprehensive about how it will all end.
      Having been brought up in a similar way to you, I am also shocked by it all...such behaviour is totally alien to me. And my parents must be turning in their graves...

      Many thanks for such an insightful comment, Geo. It is much appreciated.:))

  8. OMG, what's next to come! Although I will say, there are a lot of dirty dogs out there whether they're male or female that just can't seem to keep their hands to themselves without permission.

    1. You are so right, Lon...and then, of course, there are also the liars and cheats.
      It has all become so confusing. I'm just grateful I'm not in my teens and just setting out on the dating front...:/

      Many thanks, my Friend.:))

  9. What a great post!! I don't know what's going on anymore! LOL! Everything is so mixed up!! I went out last night and a gentleman, actually he was the chef, he put his arm around my waist and told me a joke. I was flattered!! Big Hugs!

    1. I would have been too, Sweetie!
      How some people can view a gesture like that as abusive I will never understand!!
      It certainly is fast becoming a mixed up society...
      Thank you so much.:))

      Much Love & Hugs xoxoxo

  10. __ Those primitively driven actions of some men, not only do they cause severe harm to the trespassed, they cause guilty embarrassment in the minds of we men... that stand for care and love above self satisfaction.

    I tend
    this civil scale
    living beyond the crude,
    away from an embarrassed mind;
    a man.

    1. Yes, I'd hate to be a decent kind of man in this mixed-up age. It appears they (including you) are a dying breed.:(
      However there are, of course, a growing number of women who shout "Abuse" as a means of destroying a man who is totally innocent and has simply upset them in some way.
      I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like for those who are just setting out on the dating path - of both sexes...I mean, where would one even begin to approach someone...what is allowed and what isn't?
      Such strange times...

      Thank you so much for your valuable insight, always set my cogs whirring!

  11. A thought-provoking post, thanks for sharing!

    1. Thank you so much, Nas...and really good to hear from you.:))

  12. Wishing you and your family a Happy Thanksgiving!

    1. Thank you...such a kind thought.
      We don't celebrate Thanksgiving here in the UK though...really wish we did! :))

  13. This is great. i have told my husband lately (and this isn't for the women who were truly molested, raped or abused) but being the mother of four grown sons - I feel for them. Back in the day we use to call a lot of this banter between the sexes as flirting and now - males u better beware.
    The ones who have truly suffered at the hands of arrogant power driven men - I feel for them.

    1. I totally agree with you, Sandy.
      These are such confusing times.
      As you so rightly say, when we were younger it would simply be seen as flirting (and would be taken as a compliment), but now...:/
      Yes, my heart goes out to the truly abused. All the rest of this nonsense is only ensuring that they are not believed.
      So sad.
      Thank you so much...:))

  14. I loved this one so much as has my favorite topic lol.
    so nicely written

    1. Oh thank you, glad you enjoyed! :))

      Hugs xoxoxo


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