Saturday 16 February 2019


Our vocation is eternal drudgery. Every day
is the same: washing, cooking, cleaning, shopping -
and all this without an ounce of gratitude.
And many of us are little more than breeding machines...

But what we really want
is to be Rock Stars with wild hair,
we want our men to notice us up there on stage, where
we're belting out power songs, prancing seductively,
letting the lights melt us, sweating
with our heavy makeup running into creases
that will someday deepen into wrinkles (but we're ageless, aren't we?).
Let us girls form a united front. Support each other,
go shopping for perfume, wolf-whistle
workmen on building sites, and make eyes
at passing truck drivers. Let us find our equality!
Let us take coffee breaks in the park lying on our backs,
and accept complements from passers by
with knowing smiles. Let's wear micro skirts
with bare legs. We'll walk barefoot along the shore,
totally free of time schedules, duty or obligations -
all without the slightest pang of guilt...

Oh yes, it all begins in our imagination, girls - self-belief!
Why shouldn't we be wanton mistresses if we choose
or, perhaps, independent career women?
But the choice should always be ours alone.
Our lives, our way.


  1. I once could have been all of these but at 72 my imagination is all that I have left.
    I look over at my husband of almost 48 years and I realize that I have part of my dream...the part that gave me love and the will to face old age with the man I love.

    Love this my dearest friend. You are gorgeous inside and out...the best of both worlds and real :)

    Big Hugs and Bunches of Love Always xoxoxoxo

    1. Dearest Jan, imagination is the larger part of my life now too...and how I (mostly) revel in it! Lol
      Oh how it warms my heart when you mention that precious and rare love you share with your husband. I am so, so happy for you both!😊😊
      Oh Jan, you are SO kind...and it really touches my heart...but I'm sure the "gorgeous" in this case is fully in the eye of the beholder. I am wholly unremarkable. It is YOU who are the gorgeous and highly talented one!😊😊

      All my love and hugs ❤❤❤

  2. YES.
    If only. And I continue to dream.
    I hope you are doing better dear Ygraine, and love (as always) your work. Heart-filled and thought provoking.

    1. Me too, Sue...dreaming has become my main way to travel these days!😉
      I do remember those days back in the 60's, when I was a child...when a woman's life seemed to me to be so hard and monotonous. At the time, I assumed it would be my fate too. Thank goodness some things changed (a bit) for the better!
      Dear Sue...thank you so much for caring! I have suffered a few setbacks, but am still battling on. Life isn't so bad.😊😊
      So happy you enjoyed...

      Lots of love and hugs ❤❤❤

  3. Those 60's housewives were what many of my schoolmates became. It was expected of us. But I wanted more so I set out and began life in the big city. My youth was spent much like that rock star, and I have never regretted it.

    1. Yes, that is exactly it, isn't it?
      It was expected of women in those days.
      But I guess I was a bit like you...I rebelled against the stereotype from my teens onwards (much to my parents' dismay)!*smiles*
      Now, at 62 and battling breast cancer, I'm still the rock star - at least in my head!! Lol
      Thank you so much for your is so good to hear from you.😊😊

  4. Captured the time so well. I’m sure the expectations have improved. But I’m not sure the drudgeries are being avoided. They’re just on piled on top of hard earned careers for most.

  5. You are so perceptive, Anthony...that is exactly how it is...the career piled on top of the drudgery!
    Makes me realise how fortunate I am have a husband who has never flinched from sharing the running of the household.
    Thank you so much!😊😊

  6. really, reaally true, all days the same and looks like really normal.Nobody think sometimes you are tired or sometimes I only want to read !
    Arrive the night and we have to run to the kitchen to make smething for dinner.
    This is so good Ygraine.
    Hugs and love for you always xoxox

    1. Dear you relate to this too? Such a relief I'm not alone in feeling this way about those times.
      Thank you so much, my dear Friend!😊😊
      Do hope all is OK with you.

      All my love and hugs ❤❤❤

  7. As Anthony also said, your words have captured the time so well.

    We all must choose our path as best we can.
    Eddie and I share six children, five lovely grandchildren … and the housework! LOL! We are fortunate.

    My good wishes to you Ygraine, keep battling, keep fighting …
    Healing thoughts and wishes.

    All the best Jan

    1. Yes, you and I have rare husband's... Austin also helps with the housework...and the cooking, well he is a much better cook than I am (that's my story and I'm sticking to it!! Lol).😉
      Thank you so much, Jan!

      Hugs xxx

  8. Wow, very powerful! I am.

  9. So glad to hear it, Dale!
    And thank you so

    1. I hope all is as well as can be with you, Ygraine. I think of you often and hope you are healing.

  10. Yes, Yes, Yes!! I love this Ygraine! You rock!! Big Hugs! Always thinking of you!!

    1. Oh Sweetie...thank you so much!
      Your kind words truly mean the world to me!!😊

      Lots of love and hugs ❤❤❤

  11. i have read so many stories of such desperate housewives who wanted to do all of this you mentioned in your wonderful poem dear Ygraine

    i always wanted to be a single and career woman but destiny led me towards a married life ,beginning years were like hot and cold war within and outside me

    after kids my perspective slowly started to change and
    now i find myself one of most lucky woman on planet

    who is blessed with all basic joys and blessings of life !

    time and life itself gradually show us ETERNAL AND TRUE WAYS OF LIFE :)

    destiny is WILL OF GOD!


    lots of love and tight hugs to you my precious and amazingly skilled friend!

    1. Absolutely! Yes, never an easy path for women, and even harder in those days. But we do eventually find out individual life path, don't we?!
      Thank you so much, my dear Friend!😊😊

      Lots of love and hugs ❤❤❤

  12. oh yes I really enjoyed reading this blog

    1. Many thanks, Zoya...and so happy you enjoyed!😊😊

  13. This iS SO GOOD. I was a teen in the 60's and wanted to be all those things - a few of them I was, lol

    1. I entered my teens in '69, so missed out on the "flower power" era.🙁
      Still, I did make up for lost time by becoming a 70's hippie! Lol
      Many thanks, Sandy.😊😊 xxx


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